Published in Relationship-ing·PinnedMember-only3 Glaring Red Flags That Prove Your Partner Doesn’t Love YouSo often, we forget that love is a verb, an action. We forget that love is something that we do — I convinced myself that he loved me, mostly because he said so. However, there was little proof to support his words. It would be years before I realized his definition of love was different than mine. For him, love was contingent upon my unwavering cooperation. In other words, he behaved…Relationships Love Dating5 min read
Published in Relationship-ing·PinnedMember-onlyThe #1 Reason Why Empathy is Not A Part of the Political LandscapeOur elected officials, appointed representatives, and so-called leaders seem to lack the imagination to see things from the perspective of the very people they are supposed to be serving — The current political landscape is polarized, and maybe it always has been. But we have landed in an “us vs. them” world, where people are more resistant than ever to hearing opposing viewpoints. …Relationships7 min read
Published in Relationship-ing·PinnedMember-only5 Reasons Why Healthy Relationships Are Hard for People with Abandonment IssuesThe biggest fear of someone with abandonment issues is being abandoned again. — As an adult with a history of abandonment issues, I admit that being in a healthy relationship is challenging for me sometimes. My partner and I invest a lot of time and effort into creating a healthy relational environment, and I’m happier than I’ve ever been. …Abandonment Issues4 min read
Published in Relationship-ing·1 day agoMember-onlyAre You Asking Your Partner to Suffer in Your Sexless Marriage?If you want a happy and lasting relationship, you need to consider your partner’s needs as well as your own. — “I am not interested in having relations anymore,” a client said to me in our first conversation. “After over 20 years of marriage, my husband still wants to do it, but I just want to be happy.” Her words stopped me in my tracks. I had heard variations of this…Marriage6 min read
Published in Relationship-ing·2 days agoMember-only3 Self-Indulgent Reasons Why Women Should Dress up for a First DateDress yourself in your own armor — from head to toe — so you feel more confident than ever before. — I have had a lot (a whole lot) of first dates. And as an intimacy and relationship coach, I’ve helped dozens of women prepare for first dates. One question I always ask my clients is, “What are you going to wear?” The answer I usually get is something like, “I…Dating Tips4 min read
Published in Relationship-ing·3 days agoMember-only3 Things You Should Never Share About Your Romantic RelationshipIt’s also okay to share some things — just not everything. — I’m a blabbermouth. Like, I am a chronic oversharer. So, when talking about my romantic relationship, I want to tell anyone who will listen how fortunate I am to be in a healthy partnership with the most amazing man in the world. But while some things are just too good…Relationships4 min read
Published in Relationship-ing·4 days agoMember-only5 Hard Things to Accept When the Love of Your Life Leaves YouThese five truths may set you free. — Loving someone doesn’t guarantee they’ll always stay. That was the hard truth that I had to accept when the man I loved disappeared without a trace. He didn’t say goodbye or tell me why it was over. He vanished from my life like warm breath in cold air. I was…Love4 min read
Published in Relationship-ing·5 days agoMember-onlyHow to End a Romantic Relationship When It’s Not TerribleA relationship does not have to be toxic or abusive to warrant a split. — My best guy friend ended a relationship with a great woman last year. They’d been together for a little over three years, and she was good to him. He’s the kind of guy who’s always been discerning about who he dates, so I was surprised when he told me they…Breakups3 min read
Published in Relationship-ing·Aug 4Member-only3 Subtle Behaviors That Appear in Avoidant Attachment StyleTheir past often dictates how they show up in the present. — Three of my significant romantic relationships were with men with avoidant attachment styles. While I’m not an avoidant myself, it’s not surprising that I was attracted to this type of person because both of my parents are avoidants. For me, being in a relationship with an avoidant makes me anxious…Relationships4 min read
Published in Relationship-ing·Jul 26Member-only5 Ways Lack of Intimacy Can Destroy a Healthy ConnectionA relationship void of intimacy is often unfulfilling and ultimately unsustainable. — One of my most enduring relationships also lacked intimacy. It was primarily based on deep friendship and shared interests, but we never shared our innermost thoughts or secrets. This led to tension and arguments because we could not truly understand each other’s needs. Over time, the lack of intimacy took…Relationships5 min read
